The #1 Trait of a Fearless Speaker

The best speakers have a HIGH tolerance for embarrassment

Pretty sure they have choked a speech or forgot a point on stage

They were embarrassed

The audience giggled

And life moved on

Since that moment, they realized the biggest critic of embarrassment is the inner voice

During Toastmasters, I’ve seen plenty of people choke, forget their speech mid-point, accidentally drop a curse word

At most, the audience had a chuckle

And if the speaker was smart, they’d JOIN them on the chuckle

Learning to laugh off embarrassing moments is a superpower

Because when you can zoom out & see the bigger picture, you’ll realize people will forget

And you will forget as well

But after the embarrassing moment, the harshest critic is the inner voice

Fools you into thinking that everyone is gossiping about you

And they are planning your downfall

While in reality, they are back to focusing on their problems

Their dreams

Their responsibilities etc

You take up less than 1% of their daily thoughts

Unless you DIRECTLY do something to threaten someone’s identity, they won’t think about you like that

And if you don’t believe me, then analyze your own thoughts

Most are centered around you

Even if you choke on stage, give yourself a pat on the back for getting on stage

Most do not have the courage to do that

Then, have a good laugh over it with yourself

After you did all that, own up to the error & see how you can improve for next time

Public speaking is one of those sports that you get better at with time

Abundance mentality towards speeches

Abundance mentality towards anything that you fear

The opportunities are limitless when you shape your mind to see it

Embarrassment or not, life will move on

For more public speaking insights, be sure to check out, Speaking Wizard: The Magical World of Public Speaking!

– ArmaniTalks