Dangers of Having Too Many Friends
The following chapter is from Word Play: 101 Short Stories, Essays, and Insights to Improve Communication Skills
Having too many friends is nothing to be proud of.
It’s actually something to view as a red flag.
Humans are creatures of energy.
On a daily basis, there is a finite level of energy to spend.
View energy as money.
It doesn’t matter if you have a friend circle of 5 or 50.
Ultimately, the energy remains the same.
Say you have 100$.
If you spread it out to 50 friends, then you are giving each of them 2$.
If you spread it out to 5 friends, then you are giving each of them 20$.
I don’t know about you, but if someone gives me 2 bucks, I’ll probably forget.
But if someone gives me 20 bucks, I’ll think:
‘What a generous fellow.’
You can’t give everyone you meet 20 bucks if you have 100$ to spend.
Same with energy.
Which is why it is imperative to place people into groups.
Rather than calling everyone a friend, prime the mind to see acquaintances as well.
Acquaintances are immensely powerful in the social world.
They get a bad reputation for some reason.
No clue why.
Some people get offended when you call them an acquaintance.
I feel proud.
Acquaintances keep a social circle dynamic.
The cool part?
They don’t require that much energy!
A friend is someone who you keep consistent touch with.
Someone you provide a consistent stream of energy to.
However, with an acquaintance, one or two touch points a month keeps the social bond strong!
My social law is:
- Keep your friend circle small. This allows for stronger bonds & fewer snakes.
- Keep your acquaintance circle large. This allows for more versatility & connections.
This 2-step principle leads to a network emerging in no time.
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