Wedding Invitations Revoked? 4 Reasons It Happens

Wedding Invitations Revoked? 4 Reasons It Happens

 

 

As an adult, you will be invited to events, and sometimes, you will be uninvited.

It can hurt when you’re uninvited because it feels like you’re literally standing outside the club.

 

While it stings, there are times when the reasons are valid, and it’s essential to handle the situation with grace instead of creating enemies.

In this talk, I’ll share 4 common reasons people get uninvited from weddings.

 

1. Cannot Control Their Alcohol

 

A few years ago, a group of my friends went to a bachelor party.

The groom, Cameron, was excited to celebrate, and one of the attendees was Tom.

There were around ten people at the party, and they spent their time on an island, partying for a few days.

 

On the first night, Tom got very drunk.

Funny stories came out of the night—like the time he peed in a cup and left it on the bus.

Everyone brushed it off as just one drunken mistake.

 

But on the second night, Tom got drunk again and ended up in a fight with a bouncer, getting the entire group kicked out of the club.

 

By the third night, Tom was drunk once again.

At this point, Cameron was worried.

 

He thought, “What if Tom gets this drunk at my wedding?”

Cameron didn’t want to risk it, so when he got back to the U.S., he swiftly uninvited Tom from his wedding.

 

Cameron made the right call because at every future wedding Tom attended, he got wasted, embarrassing himself and drawing attention away from the bride and groom.

 

If you have a reputation for not being able to handle your alcohol, people will think twice before inviting you to their big day.

 

2. Too Political on Social Media

 

A Jewish friend of mine once shared that after posting pro-Israel content on Instagram, he lost 200 followers.

That’s a lot of people!

Those 200 people are also weddings he’s not invited to anymore.

 

Now, imagine he was already invited to one of their weddings.

If they unfollowed him online, they’re likely unfollowing him in real life too.

 

Overly political people often get uninvited from weddings.

The bride and groom may disagree with their political views or, more commonly, they just don’t want the potential conflict that could arise between guests.

 

Weddings are meant to be smooth and joyful, and no one wants tension because someone can’t resist a political argument.

 

3. You Weren’t Really Uninvited, Just Wait…

 

A few years ago, I noticed that one of my fraternity brothers was celebrating his wedding.

I saw pictures of familiar faces at the celebration and thought, “What the heck? No invite?”

 

We were inducted into the fraternity together.

We went through hell together, so I was a little salty that I wasn’t invited.

 

A few months later, I got a formal invite to his wedding.

Turns out, there were two ceremonies: one hosted by the bride’s family and one hosted by the groom’s.

 

If I had made snarky comments after not being invited to the first one, I probably would’ve gotten myself uninvited from the second one.

 

Sometimes, people assume they’ve been uninvited when, in reality, there’s more to the story.

Being graceful and patient can save you from unnecessary embarrassment.

 

4. Conflicting Guest Dynamics

 

Here’s another sleeper reason for being uninvited:

  • Conflicting relationships among the guests.

 

A few years ago, my friend Sam was getting married to his fiancée Nancy.

One of Sam’s friends was a girl named Nera, who happened to be Sam’s high school sweetheart.

Nancy wasn’t comfortable with her being there and ultimately, Sam had to uninvite Nera.

 

If you’ve dated or had a falling out with someone attending the wedding who is close to the bride or groom, there’s a chance you might be uninvited to avoid awkwardness.

 

Handle Rejection with Grace

 

If you do get uninvited from a wedding, keep it moving.

Don’t make a big scene.

 

Some people whine and complain to anyone who will listen, but that creates a lose-lose situation.

You either come off as pathetic or you pressure the couple into re-inviting you, making the situation awkward for everyone.

 

A lot of times, people don’t uninvite others with ill intent.

It could simply be due to budget issues, so assume that’s the case unless you hear otherwise.

I’ve noticed that when people chalk it up to budget constraints, they carry themselves with more grace.

 

As we grow older, there will be times we’re invited, and times we get uninvited.

Don’t dwell on it—life moves on.

 

For more tips on social skills, be sure to check out my book, the Charisma King

– ArmaniTalks 🎙️🔥

 

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