Types of Toxic People
No one likes to deal with toxic people.
But want to know what’s worse than that?
When you can’t even tell whether someone is toxic or not.
The reason a lot of people stay in toxic relationships & friendships is because they do not know that they are falling for the trap.
But toxicity begins to seep into your existence very quick.
You begin to feel a lack of energy, which begins to have a spillover effect in other elements of your life.
Let’s begin off with why toxicity is such an issue & then let’s delve into 2 types of toxic creatures.
The Social Energy
Your subconscious mind is your emotional mind. This mind sees life thru energy & images.
It is not logical, but rather based off of emotions.
Therefore, the people who you surround yourself with have a bigger influence in your life than you can imagine.
Human spread what is known as social energy.
There are two boats of social energy out there:
Clearly, toxicity falls into the #1 category. People that are too logical have a difficult time distinguishing between the two energies.
Overly logical people see life thru a black & white lens.
But understanding energy requires a gray eye.
Instead of looking for facts, figures & statistics, you need to be able to tune into your body.
The humans that you surround yourself with are influencing your subconscious mind.
And your subconscious mind is responding with the emotions by applying it to your body.
In order to be able to distinguish between the two energies, analyze how you physically feel!
Drained or empowered?
Ask yourself the question & be curious about your body’s response.
The 2 kinds of Toxicity
I am going to introduce 2 types of toxic people that you need to be highly alert for.
- Clearly toxic
- Ambiguously toxic.
1. Clearly toxic
This group either drains you or brings out the worst in you.
If you have a lick of common sense, you will be able to tell who this group is.
They love drama, are losers, negative, haters etc.
Surrounding yourself with this group of people will make your level up journey feel like mission impossible.
It will feel like you are running a race with an invisible anchor tied to your waist.
2. Ambiguously toxic
This is where things get tricky.
This group of people are fun, awesome to hang out with & love you.
‘Huh?? Then how are they toxic?’
Because they have no life mission.
They are the group of people who are always getting drunk, partying & wasting time.
In the ideal world, this will group will not be a ‘toxic’ person.
But in the level up world?
If they are not helping you become your best self, then they are toxic.
Sadly, this group of people are not bad people, but their lack of life purpose is holding you back.
They are preventing you from building a legacy.
And for that reason, they are toxic.
How to Handle toxic people
The group will dictate the strategy.
Let’s keep it simple and to the point.
Group 1, the clearly toxic people need to be eliminated.
Group 2, the ambiguously toxic people need to be distanced from.
Before I explain the rationale, I want to talk about a social dynamics principle:
You cannot change people who do not think there is anything to fix.
It really is that simple, but often overlooked. We spend days, weeks, months, and even years trying to fix people.
But understand that your intentions do NOT have the power to override someone else’s subconscious mind.
Even though you want the best for them does not mean that they want the best for themselves.
Once you understand this, you can make your moves with poise.
The reasons you want to eliminate group 1 is because they bring NOTHING to the table.
They only bring drama, headaches & arguments.
Why the fuck would you want that in your life?
Even if you love them, cut them off.
They are preventing you from leveling up & sometimes you just need to make the tough decision.
Have the mind power for your logic to overpower your emotions.
Now with group 2, you distance.
The reason I say distance and not eliminate is because they at least bring you joy.
The level up journey is not all about working all day.
Sometimes, you need to unwind and hang out with people who bring you happiness.
This group you can occasionally hit up to travel with, go to a party with or celebrate with.
But having them in your immediate circle? Nah fam, not a good idea.
Toxicity Is Glued by Love
At the end of the day, it should be easy to cut off people who waste our time, right?
This is tough because humans are emotional creatures.
We often find it difficult to cut ties with toxic people because they were the same person that once made us smile.
And it kills us to know that we can’t change them & they won’t have a strong presence in our life anymore.
But it’s all about thinking bigger picture.
Now one said leveling up was going to be easy.
A part of growing up is making tough decisions that hurt you.
But temporary hurt will lead to long term sanity.
Evaluate your toxic friends, and make your next moves.
And not doing anything is a move in itself.
Understand that your subconscious mind is always watching & it will dictate 95% of your future.
Make sure you choose your circle wisely.
Don’t let the any types of toxic people stop you
Throughout my journey, I had to say goodbye to many people that I thought were going to be in my life forever.
Waving a goodbye is never easy, but it is often necessary.
Understanding that other people have gone thru what you are about to go thru will help you gain clarity.
I’m not saying the decision will be easy by any means, but you will at least gain perspective.
If you need tips on analyzing toxicity & building a tribe, book a session here.
But understand that your tribe will dictate your future
The only person you owe an answer to is yourself.
Now get back out there & make the tough decisions for the present for a better tomorrow.
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