6 Social Sins That Piss Others Off

6 Social Sins That Piss Others Off

 

A social sin is a move that leaves the other person drained.

With perception, humans focus on the big picture.

 

The big picture often comes down to feelings.

  • Did you make the other person feel empowered or drained?

 

With perception, generalities beat details.

And pleasure beats pain.

 

Let’s say you have given your friend, Bucky, 50 rides to the airport.

Never even asked him for gas money!

But one day, you slapped him in front of a group of people for insulting your sister.

 

There is a HIGH chance that the 1 painful moment beat the 50 positive moments of giving him free car rides.

This leaves Bucky with a distasteful attitude towards you.

 

Obviously, there are other variables involved like the depth of your relationship with Bucky, his maturity levels & his ability to forgive.

But for the most part, socially intelligent people aim to reduce social sins.

 

Some social sins are obvious.

While other social sins are not that obvious.

In this article, we will explore the not-so-obvious social sins.

 

1. Always Getting Offended by Something

 

In this era, people are soft.

It’s because they don’t build anything.

They have a buffer from the real world which affords them the luxury of being offended by everything.

 

A sensitive person has the capability of ruining the vibe of the entire interaction.

 

Creativity happens when people are having fun.

From fun, riveting ideas emerge.

And riveting ideas allow the social interaction to feel light & for time to fly by.

 

But when someone easily gets offended by jokes…

The dynamic changes.

 

Creativity walks out the door.

Time slows down.

And it becomes a pain in the ass to go through the interaction.

 

2. Unwanted Advice

 

Normally, it seems like a positive trait to give others advice.

If one person knows something, they should inform the other person, no?

 

Not always.

 

Sometimes, giving advice is smart.

Other times, giving advice is stepping over boundaries.

 

Give advice when they directly ask you for advice.

Or if they are about to make a dire mistake.

 

Other than that, if they are talking about their day or an upcoming project & you begin lecturing them with advice…

It’ll often leave a poor taste in their mouth.

 

There is an art to letting others make their own mistakes so they can learn from it (hopefully).

Rather than always butting in.

 

3. Talking About Niched Topics

 

This is the era to have all sorts of fascinating interests.

But being too niched in conversation material is a fast way to bore people.

Especially if you can tell the other person doesn’t care.

 

I know someone who is overly detailed with NFTs, Bitcoin, nodes, and all that.

He is so compelled by the information that he is certain that others must hear about the information.

 

The thing with our interests is that it seems REALLY important to our nervous system.

Those strong feelings create the narrative of:

‘Others MUST know this information. I’m looking out for them.’

 

While in reality, it’s the ego that’s creating the ‘altruistic’ narrative.

Others probably don’t have to know about this niched topic.

Be socially dynamic and adjust conversation material when needed.

 

4. Not Introducing People Properly

 

You ever had that moment when you were interacting with a friend.

Then this friend runs into someone you don’t know.

They begin chatting with this stranger for a LONG time but never introduces you.

 

What next?

 

Well, you go on your phone.

Shuffle your body.

And look around aimlessly with a goofy smile on your face.

 

Still, your friend and this stranger are carrying on a conversation without acknowledging your presence.

Social sin!!

 

Winners introduce like winners.

 

Introduction for dummies:

  1. Introduce both parties.
  2. Create conversation material to get the parties integrated.
  3. Fall back and conduct the flow of the conversation to make sure everyone is participating.

 

social sins

 

5. Lack of Enthusiasm When Hearing Others Talk

 

Enthusiasm is not just about being physically present.

It’s about being mentally present too.

 

You ever had that moment when you thought you did a good job listening to someone else?

But when it was their turn to listen to you, they seemed uninterested?

 

That’s a social sin.

The best conversations happen when all parties are interested.

 

This is a tough problem to have.

Because the more interested you are, the more you notice how few people are interested in others.

 

It’s easy to want to be offended and show little interest back.

But this is a great time to work out your social muscle and keep interest.

Cultivating curiosity towards a boring or uninterested person is a way to build further enthusiasm for the future.

 

6. Peer Pressure & Addictions

 

A part of growing up is seeing the different habits others adopt at different parts of their life.

Not only do they pick up good habits…but also drop the destructive habits.

 

I had this fraternity brother who was struggling with alcoholism.

His life was spiraling out of control.

Getting into fights, breaking things, and getting bloated like the blueberry girl from the Willy Wonka movie.

 

Eventually, he decided to seek help and get sober.

 

One day, we all attended a wedding together.

There were 2 guys at the wedding convincing him to drink.

They were good guys who didn’t mean any harm.

From their paradigm, it was ‘only one night’ of drinking.

But that was the mistake.

They were evaluating the scenario from THEIR paradigm.

 

With addictions, it’s best not to peer pressure someone to go back to their old ways, no matter how small the activity may seem to you at the time.

With addictions, things work in chains.

All it takes is 1 tiny activity to get them back to their old ways.

 

Plus, let’s say they listen to you.

The next day, when the flurry of emotions subside, they’ll associate the pain of breaking their sober streak with you.

Best to support someone who is making significant changes in their life.

 

Building Social Knowledge & Melting Social Sins

 

Knowledge, self-improvement, and social skills all go together.

The more you self-improve, the more you know.

The more you know, the easier it becomes to avoid making social sins.

 

A sad thing about those who make social sins is that they have no clue they are doing it.

After reading this blog, no need to judge others who make social sins.

Assume they don’t know any better.

This will lead to more charm from your end.

 

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