6 Important Psychology Principles to Learn
1. Spotlight Effect
This is when we believe all eyes are on us
Others are ‘thinking’ about us
There’s a figurative spotlight illuminating all our moves to the public
This concept is the engine behind social anxiety
The best fix for this is awareness
Unless you can fly or directly harmed someone…
They aren’t thinking of u
They are thinking of themselves
2. Illusion of Transparency
This is when we feel like our internal nerves are leaking out to the public
This leads to 2 concerns:
-Do I look ugly while speaking?
-Can others tell that I’m nervous?
It’s called an ILLUSION for a reason
The nerves are not leaking out of you
Heavy tension is simply disrupting our logic
3. Pratfall Effect
This concept states that humans like humans who act like humans
‘Huh?’
Humans enjoy flaws
Makes them seem more relatable
A big part of anxiety wants us to chase perfection
However, perfection was never the staple of success
Putting on the act of ‘perfection’ can stray us away from success
4. Negativity Bias
You hear 100 good opinions about your work
You hear 1 mean opinion about your work
Which one sticks out to most?
It’s the negative one
Humans are more sensitive to negativity due to the wiring of the brain
Our ancient ancestors needed to stay alert for negative scenarios to stay alive
Outdated software for the most part
Gratitude helps rewire the brain to make positive comments sticky
5. Gaslight Effect
This is when you get the hot & cold of a person
One moment they are open & very warm
The next moment they are very aloof & cold
This is an intentional move meant for manipulation
Changing someone’s emotional states from one spectrum to the complete opposite makes it easier to control the behaviors of that individual
6. Michelangelo Phenomenon
His phenomenon implies that we become sculpted by who we are with
Predominantly relationship partners
You ever noticed how one member of the couple started to pick up the traits of the other member?
Mannerisms, jokes, and you can even say they started to look the same…
