Loosen Up! How to Have Fun as an Adult

Loosen Up! How to Have Fun as an Adult

 

This may seem like a comical headline.

Yet, it’s very serious.

 

The ability to have fun is a skill set.

And it’s a skill set that’s even more important as an adult.

 

The adult mind is primed to think of ‘fun’ as ‘slacking off.’

 

Therefore, the adult mind associates a negative stigma to enjoying themselves too much.

This leads to resistance.

 

The resistance spills over to social skills, public speaking & content creation.

Time to quit being stiff.

Go from a stiff stick to a dynamic rubber band by mastering the science of fun.

 

Fun is the Original Focus

 

Focus is something that is great to do.

Without focus, 30-minute tasks become 3-hour tasks.

 

Different people get into the focusing zone in different ways.

Some block out time to be productive.

Others create a game plan for the day.

And others tune out all distractions.

 

These are great ways to be productive.

‘I feel like you’re about to say a but.’

I wasn’t.. But now that you bring it up…

 

BUT, what if focus was the byproduct rather than the source?

 

Rather than ‘having to focus.’

  • Have fun & allow focus to be a byproduct.

We will explore this idea more shortly.

For the time being, I want you to keep this in the back of your mind.

 

Building Emotional Literacy

 

Emotions are a compass.

Each one is meant to guide the human.

 

Nowadays, society deifies logic.

However, if you are looking at the grand scheme of civilization…

Emotions have more impact in dictating survival.

 

  • Fear is a powerful emotion because it led us to be alert.
  • Joy is a powerful emotion because it led us to be creative.

Without the emotions serving as the operating system, then a lot of things would topple over.

 

That’s not to say logic is useless.

Logic is a powerful tool that allows for repeatable processes, critical thinking & further innovation.

 

Relying on logic alone will have you thinking in structures that are designed for you by society.

Going beyond logic by strategically using emotions will lead to out-of-world insights.

 

Just know that emotions are volatile.

Especially when emotions are viewed through the lens of logic.

 

Logic’s goal is to dissect & break things down.

Avoid doing that with emotions…

 

This is why labels like ‘angry’, ‘sad’, ‘doubtful’ can be helpful.

But can cause a person to be reliant.

 

It’s much smarter to experience emotions.

Emotions = feelings + perception.

Feel the feelings to control the perception.

 

Having Fun as An Adult

 

The body is a compass.

To tap into the body, understand the body.

To understand the body, feel the feelings.

 

What are the activities that allow you to have fun?

These are activities that others probably would have never been able to guess.

 

Let’s say you enjoy watching debates on atheists vs religions.

No clue why…

But those debates are fun to watch for you.

 

Then watch it.

And understand the body in the process.

 

How are the feelings?

Where are the sensations??

And how is the perception???

 

In this process of learning more about yourself, that’s when the inner potential is unlocked.

Fun is slowly being rediscovered.

 

By the way, you are not focusing on this debate like you HAVE to focus.

Instead, you are focusing as a byproduct of leading with fun.

 

Fun is now the source & the targeting of the mind is the byproduct.

Controlling emotions led to a practical output.

 

This is just a preview of what happens when using fun strategically as an adult.

Improvement is cheatcoded.

 

Practical Benefits of Fun as an Adult

 

As an adult, when you see others in social interactions…

Most members are looking for a person they can lean on.

 

The group is looking for the person who seems to be enjoying themselves the most.

Then the rest of the members follow the lead of that fun person.

 

That’s why at weddings, the people who can dance become a celebrity for the night.

They are the compass that sets the vibe for the wedding.

 

When they are on the dance floor, others rush to the floor as well.

Without them, I doubt anyone would be rushing anywhere.

 

Same with a powerful best-man speaker who makes the audience laugh.

They are controlling the flow by using their emotions to control other people’s emotions.

This is what fun looks like as an adult:

A chance to be more charming & laid back.

Not only are others more relaxed, but you feel better.

 

Rather than asking questions like:

‘How can I get others to like me?’

 

Ask:

‘How can I put myself in a state where I am actually enjoying myself?’

 

The latter will lead to better results.

11 out of 10 times.

 

Hacking into Fun

 

Here’s a tip…

Smirk more.

 

As I’m creating this blog, I reminded myself to smirk.

Soon as I smirked, I felt a surge in my chest.

And now I am smirking a bit more…

 

You’re probably envisioning me smirking now, aren’t you?

Just kidding.

 

Smirking associates the fun emotion with whatever activity you are doing.

Try it out for yourself.

 

  • Chop vegetables with a grimace on your face.
  • Chop vegetables with a smirk on your face.

Immediately, you’ll notice the physiological differences.

If you are out of touch with how to enjoy yourself, then smile more.

 

‘Should I even smile for activities which scare me?’

You should ESPECIALLY smile for activities which scare you.

 

Control Emotions, Control Perspective

 

Emotional regulation is a must.

Especially if you are leveling up.

 

Leveling up without emotional regulation is like driving a car without gasoline.

Sure, your steering wheel is working.

But you ain’t going nowhere bubba!!

 

Therefore, understand the body more.

It has more intelligence than you can imagine.

 

Using the body the right way allows you to access the primal internet.

The type of internet which doesn’t need computers and telecommunications.

 

Instead, it’s a smirk which is the portal.

Or any activity where focus just happens.

 

Learn what it feels like to have fun.

And unlock an enjoyable state at will.

 

Your internal world will thank you.

And your external world will thank you even more.

 

Looking for more practical strategies on emotional regulation to feel confident?

Then be sure to check out the Armani Archives: Master Soft Skills Collection!

 

You’ll learn how to:

-Become more creative.

-Build emotional intelligence.

-Deliver better talks.

-And connect with others!

 

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