How to Get Over Being Rejected FAST

Rejection is a part of the game.

And it’s a part of the social skills game to get comfortable with.

There’s a big difference between dealing with something and overcoming something.

Dealing with something sounds passive.

Makes you frame yourself as a victim.

Overcoming something is much more powerful.

You now frame yourself as a victor.

This post is going to talk about how to get over being rejected.

Not only on a situation by situation basis.

But for life.

It’s going to require a mentality shift.

This mentality shift will be a transition from scarce to abundance.

What Does Rejection Entail?

At a basic level, rejection requires 2 parties.

This is when one party turns down the offer of another party.

Rejection can happen for a job interview.

Let’s say you have been wanting to get a job for your entire life.

However, the company turns you down.

This dilemma is often faced by a lot of aspiring athletes who were turned down by a professional sports organization.

Rejection can happen with dating.

Let’s say you wanted to ask someone out & that person turned you down.

In this case, your dating offer was rejected.

Rejection can happen with little things.

Normally, when I ask a stranger to take a picture of me while I’m traveling in a foreign area, they take the picture.

However, I can recall 2 times when the person flat out said, ‘no, I’m busy.’

Asshole!

Nah, I’m just kidding.

It’s all good.

As I said, rejection is a part of the game.

Why Does Rejection Sting?

• Rejection can sting when you notice it for very long.

I want you to read the line above one more time.

Then focus on how I used the word notice in the sentence.

You’ll see why I told you to reread that line shortly.

Rejection stings because it feels like you were publicly shown why you weren’t good enough.

Which hurts your identity.

Think about a time you got fired.

Even if you never got fired, play along anyway.

Maybe the person who let you go was struggling to make revenue for their business.

So he couldn’t pay for a certain amount of employees, causing him to cut a significant amount of the staff.

You being fired was never personal.

Yet, you viewed it as personal because you were on the receiving end of the shorter stick.

Which can cause a lot of ‘what if’ scenarios.

‘What if’ scenarios are a default state of the mind.

When left unchecked, the mind may just play scenarios that went wrong for the hell of it.

Rejection stings because it feels like we weren’t good enough.

Even when the rejection was never personal.

How to Get Over Being Rejected Fast

There was a line I told you to reread earlier.

Can you tell me what it was?

‘Sure. You said…Rejection can sting when you notice it for very long.’

And I said that for a reason.

The fastest way to overcome rejection is to not notice it for too long.

Let me be clear about what this means.

It does not mean to repress feelings.

That can do more harm than good.

It means to set up a life with plenty of opportunities or opportunities in the making, so you barely notice the rejection.

Envision Anand and Julio.

Both just got jobs in sales teams.

Anand normally has 2 people in his pipeline to sell to.

He is a perfectionist and wants everything to go well.

When the 2 people reject Ananad, he is crushed.

He spends the next week dwelling on what went wrong.

On the other hand, Julio has 45 people in his pipeline.

Julio makes it the effort to service each lead with top-tier service.

However, when he gets rejected, he doesn’t take it personally.

Why?

Because he barely notices!

There are 45 people in his pipeline.

The key you want to remember is the word ‘notice.’

People with scarce mindsets notice a lot longer.

That’s because they think too much and do too little.

However, people with an abundance mindset had to earn that abundance.

This state of cornucopia is never reached by sitting on your ass trying to whoo only 2 people.

It’s about having 45 people in your pipeline.

Too Much Time is Not a Good Thing

Learning how to not take things personally is a skill set.

It’s something that needs to be learned over time.

There was one Halloween when my brother and I went trick or treating.

I think I was 6 years old at the time. We both dressed up as Power Rangers.

While getting candy in one of the houses, I noticed the man gave my brother a few more pieces of candy than me.

When I saw this, I thought he liked my brother better.

Mind you, I had never met this man before.

I knew nothing about him.

Yet, younger me personalized getting less candy.

Nowadays, personalizing something like that seems laughable.

Still, it shows the transition in terms of my mind.

To learn the art of not personalizing, you need a filled schedule, not an empty one.

Not a filled schedule with tasks that have you spinning in circles.

Instead, a schedule that moves you forward in increments for SOME goal.

Anand was dwelling on those 2 leads who turned him down because he made his schedule too free.

A free schedule led Anand to be a people pleaser.

Julio learned the art of how to get over being rejected because his schedule was packed.

Not with purposeless tasks.

But purposeful tasks which gave clarity, direction, and more clarity.

Rejection is a Part of the Game

A part of leveling up is being rejected more.

Breaking down each and every single rejection is low ROI and does little to advance the mind forward.

The mind is a powerful tool.

And the mind can think any thought out there.

Thinking thoughts about a person who rejected you 15 years ago plants the seeds to think thoughts about a person who may reject you 15 years from now.

Notice things less.

Not actively notice less.

But allow noticing less to simply be a byproduct of moving forward in some goal.

ANY goal.

Something fam…

That’s how to get over being rejected.

Not in small increments.

But in rapid successions.

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– ArmaniTalks