How to Deal with Changes in Life Like a Winner

Change is a part of reality.

Those who try to suppress change often end up dealing the worst with it.

It’s much better to deal with change.

Expect it.

Conquer it.

One of my first times realizing the importance of dealing with change was when I was forced to read this book called Things Fall Apart in high school.

For most books, I SparkNotes’d it.

But something in my gut told me to read this book.

So, I read it.

It was a book about a powerful warrior in Africa.

The book highlighted his gradual journey to gaining physical strength, growing a family, and winning respect in his tribe.

It seemed like he was going to be a winner.

But things began to change.

A new religion set up shop in his village.

Soon, he was finding it difficult to adjust to the new religion.

The culture was shifting.

His son abandoned his roots and converted to the new religion.

The powerful warrior saw his life falling apart.

I won’t spoil the book for you.

So, allow me to share how to deal with changes in life.

The 2 Parts of Reality

The 2 forces of reality are:

• Constant.
• Change.

In terms of human experience:

Awareness is constant.

But what changes is your life (mind & body).

• Your body has changed from a baby to now.
• Your mind has changed from a baby to now.

Another example is the screen that you are reading this blog from.

The screen remains the same.

But during your web surfing session, I’m sure you saw a lot of different content.

YouTube posts.

Other blog articles.

And tweets.

• Screen = Constant
• Content on the screen = Change.

These 2 parts of reality are baked into the human experience.

Why People Hate Change

‘If change is one of the forces of reality, why do so many people hate it?’

They hate it because of the emotional strings.

The subconscious mind loves familiarity.

It’s the conscious mind that wants to evolve.

Have you ever had that moment when you saw your friend making moves?

Let’s say one of them started a business and has been crushing it.

Now you want to start a business.

Your imagination is engaged and you can hear the coins pouring in.

One problem…

You keep self-sabotaging yourself.

The motivation is plagued with self-doubt, analysis paralysis, and inconsistency.

Why?

It’s because the subconscious mind wants things to remain the way it always has.

You have a nice cozy job.

Everything is predictable.

Why switch it up?

The subconscious mind doesn’t like change too much.

It loves predictability though.

How to Deal with Changes in Life

I believe it’s smart to willingly introduce changes to your life.

If things have been working for too long, then it’s wise to switch it up.

One of the simplest examples is the gym.

If you go to the gym and lift the same weight all the time, then there is no growth.

The general rule of thumb is to change it up.

Make it difficult for your muscles to adapt.

It’s the same with reality.

Occasionally introduce changes to your life…

It doesn’t have to be volatile changes either.

Let’s say you are someone who is always going for a walk on a treadmill.

Well, switch it up and go walk in the park.

‘Okay… what’s the point of that? I’m still walking.’

Doesn’t matter.

It’s the act of willingly introducing change that is key.

By introducing gradual changes every now and then, the subconscious mind no longer detests change.

Deal With It

Here’s some uncomfortable advice.

It may piss you off.

The advice is:

• Deal with it.

‘Deal with it? This is your bright advice?!’

Okay, I’ll switch up the words to make it more powerful:

• Thrive under it.

I recall in my first internship… one day, I got to work late.

Once I got to work, there was this guy named Hoa who came to me and was like:

‘Whoa, you’re here?? I was worried.’

For a bit of context, this was my first engineering-related job.

I was very nervous about being exposed as a fraudulent engineer.

Hoa took me under his wing and taught me the ropes.

We built a close bond.

I thought he was being sarcastic with his comment, so I was like:

‘Very funny, Hoa. I know I’m 20 minutes late, but there was a lot of traffic!’

He still had a serious face.

Then he said:

‘You didn’t hear? The new management that bought our company just fired half of the staff. Amy and Braulio are gone.’

Just like that, half of the company was slashed.

This was a tiny company where everyone knew each other.

I soon heard people crying in the walkways.

But what’s done was done.

We couldn’t do anything about it.

So, we needed to find a way to thrive.

The Adaptable Nervous System

‘You never know how strong you are until you have no choice.’

Over time, the few remaining members of the company adjusted to our coworkers’ departure.

We learned their:

• Systems.
• Workflow.
• Processes.

We became smarter through the tragedy.

They eventually found new jobs as well.

We were all better off in the long run.

All change has a silver lining buried within it.

Over time, the silver lining will present itself.

Deal with Change and Grow with Change

No matter which field you are in..

Which state you are in..

Or which stage you are in…

Change is inevitable.

There are 2 forces of reality:

• The constant and the change.

Awareness always remains the same.

It is nature that goes up and down.

Accept the reality of nature.

And it will no longer be intimidating.

For more practical tips on how to deal with change and stressful situations, be sure to check out my book:

• Level Up Mentality: A Guide to Reengineer your Mindset for Confidence

This book will teach you how to:

• Leverage the subconscious mind towards your favor.
• Adapt to change at rapid rates.
• Make daily 1% improvements towards a gargantuan goal.

Along with plenty of other topics.

Get the Level Up Mentality Here:

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