5 Ways to Rebuild your Life After Rock Bottom
You are there now, aren’t you?
‘I think so… but I’m not sure.’
Go ahead & describe how you feel.
‘Well, I am finding it very difficult to sleep. And when I do sleep, I get disrupted by nightmares. Throughout the day, I feel a lack of energy. 0 appetite. 0 drive.’
Ah, I see.
‘What is this feeling?’
It is the feeling of rock bottom.
How Did You End Up Here?
Do the attributes mentioned above sound strangely familiar?
If so, then you are going thru one of the darkest moments of your life known as ‘rock bottom.’
You may be wondering how it got so bad that you ended up here in the first place.
And I would love to give you a response… But it really depends.
· Some people have gotten to rock bottom from a very badbreakup.
· Some got here after getting fired from a secure job.
· Some got here after the loss of a loved one.
Whatever destination led you to this path, understand that the feelings are roughly the same.
You are in the depths of hell in your life.
The attributes I described above are just a FEW of the traits that you are likely to go thru.
A few others include isolating yourself from others, not taking care of your body, and indulging in narcotics.
‘How long will this feeling last for?’
It depends on the next steps that you take.
Either you can go further into the depths of hell (which most people do) or you can use this moment to springboard yourself to greatness.
But you can’t do both.
Why Rock Bottom is Actually a GOOD thing
Let me ask you a question.
When you are in the gym, do you build muscle by going easy on yourself?
‘No. I only build muscle by putting myself thru pain.’
And what keeps you fighting past the pain?
‘The end goal of coming out stronger.’
Bingo.
That is EXACTLY the point of rock bottom.
Even though you are going thru an immense level of emotional pain right now, understand that it is temporary.
The dark clouds will one day drift away.
The sunshine will one day come back.
But only if you are able to digest that rock bottom is actually a GOOD thing.
When you internalize this concept, you will come out stronger from this entire experience.
Want to know the honest truth?
I actually feel sorry for the people who have never been thru rock bottom.
They don’t know what pain is.
And they damn well don’t know how to come back from pain.
So what does this do?
This leads them to living their life in the comfort zone.
Never fully knowing the power that they possess.
But people who HAVE been thru rock bottom , have been BATTLE TESTED.
They come out a better person knowing that they have been thru hell, and survived.
Knowing that they were able to make eye contact with the devil & rise anyways gives them a level of coverage & confidence.
They hold this fire for life.
This is why rock bottom is a good thing.
It allows you to join an exclusive club once you have survived & did NOT let it deter you.
What’s sad is that most people let themselves get deterred.
And unfortunately, I can’t blame them.
We were never taught about emotional intelligence in school.
So when we get out into the real world & become an emotional train wreck, we desperately look for guidance.
But when we see there are not much resources out there, we feel tempted to take the dark path.
Alcohol, partying non stop, doing drugs etc.
All this will temporarily numb the pain, sure.
But understand one MAJOR concept in the world of emotional intelligence.
An emotion that is attempted to be buried goes to the gym & comes back 10 x stronger.
People who try to numb the pain get short term success in exchange for long term failure.
And the people who take this easy route end up one day realizing the error in their ways.
But by that time, it’s too late.
They spend years & years playing catch up.
Such a sad thing to witness.
But the people who take the road less traveled?
They Level Up & 100X themselves.
They become better off.
They LEVERAGE the pain rather than let it destroy them.
You may be wondering how to take the road less traveled.
Good, that’s what this article is for.
I’m going to give you 5 few practical tips to get you back on track.
This route will help you immensely in your comeback.
Let us begin.
1. Accept what happened
This isn’t going to be something that happens overnight.
This is going to be something that happens over time.
You will often reflect on the event that led you to this place.
And reflecting makes sense. It is a traumatic event, you know.
But there is a catch!
You need to reflect with purpose.
If you are aimlessly letting your mind drift to that area of your life, then you are going to just grow resentful.
But if you are letting our mind drift off to that event with the SOLE purpose of picking up missed lessons, than you will blossom.
It really is that simple.
At first, you will have a lot of ‘what if’ scenarios.
But after a while, you will have lessons from the past that you can now apply to the future.
2. Have a routine
A routine is very important whenever you are going thru emotional trauma.
The reason for this is because emotional trauma has your internal world feeling chaotic.
A chaotic body leads to a chaotic mind.
A chaotic mind leads to impulsive actions.
The impulsiveness slowly begins to creep up and has you feeling even more empty.
Which is why you need to counteract that with a routine.
The routine brings needed structure into the chaos & begins to balance you back into rhythm.
Plus, a routine has you waking up every day with PURPOSE. Which is huge when you are going thru rock bottom.
Don’t just make a routine & not follow it.
Have the discipline to execute on the routine day in and day out.
Soon, it will become your haven. It will bring you peace.
Also, a routine is not a permanent thing. It is something that is capable of evolving.
So feel free to experiment and tweak it as you see fit.
The more data that you gather, the more you’ll be able to discover the routine that works for you.
3. Body Workouts
If you are in rock bottom, pretty sure you have been feeling extra lazy.
There is a scientific reason for that.
1. When you are stressed, your body releases extra cortisol.
2. Extra cortisol pushes excess blood into your muscles.
3. The excess blood in your muscles has you feeling lethargic.
The best way to counteract this is by lifting weights, playing sports, doing yoga etc.
Forcing your body to get active releases the exact opposite of cortisol, endorphins.
Endorphins are feel good chemicals.
Endorphins are your best friend in rock bottom.
When you put your body thru a workout, you’ll release a boat load of endorphins.
That’s why you always feel great & in a good mood after a workout.
It is much better to have your body produce feel good chemicals internally rather than rely on feel good substances externally.
Remember that.
4. Mind Workouts
Mind workouts are JUST as needed as body workouts.
And my favorite are, meditation, gratitude & journaling.
A combination of these 3 will allow you to make your mind grow stronger than your emotions.
That is why rock bottom is so great in the fist place!
When your emotions are stronger than your mind, you get immaturity.
When your mind is stronger than your emotions, you get maturity.
This is a huge factor in rebuilding your life after rock bottom.
The more your mind can fight thru disruptive emotions to take action, the more you are conditioning mental toughness into your existence.
5. Have a project
The project can be:
Starting a side hustle
Picking up public speaking
Building a personal brand
Learning how to code
Learning a new language
Something!
For this step, you are going to have to let your curiosity & gut guide you.
What is it that you like to do but have been pushing off for the longest time?
Seriously, take some time to ponder this.
For me, I liked public speaking, but had taken a huge hiatus because life had gotten so busy.
So I ended up picking up public speaking again during my rock bottom moment and decided to document the whole journey on Twitter.
I called my page ArmaniTalks.
Well, 3 months later, the page went on to massively grow because people liked how I was sharing my story in real time.
Why don’t you do the same?
Pick up something cool & document the process!
It’s a great way to hold yourself accountable & inspire people along the way.
Rebuild your Life 1 Brick at a Time
Listen.
I am not going to give you false hope.
Rock bottom is not going to be something that will be easy to rise from.
It is going to be one of the most difficult journeys in your life.
There will be days when you think all hope is lost.
There will be days when you think you have overcome the darkness to only feel like shit hours later.
There will be days you want to quit & pick up the bottle.
But I am here to tell you that if you remain consistent, then you WILL rise.
Don’t give up no matter how bad it gets.
Rather, EXPECT the urge to quite & laugh at the urge’s face.
Create humor out of your weak points.
That’s how you use this dark moment to become best friend’s with the person that you were always destined to become best friends with:
Yourself.
Now apply these 5 tips & help re-engineer your life back towards greatness.
For a more in depth look into the level up Framework, check out my book Level Up Mentality.
An in depth blueprint on how to build your life back 1 brick at a time to creat castles, monuments & skyscrapers of your future.
Best of luck.
– ArmaniTalks 🎙️🔥
