5 Signs You Party Too Much

Celebrating is a great thing.

When you have a big moment in your life, it’s great to invite your friends and create new memories.

The only problem is when you celebrate too much.

When you celebrate too much, you:

Get bloated from all the alcohol you’ve been consuming.
Spend too much money.
Begin to get numb to your wins.

I have a mantra:

Only party when you have something worth celebrating.

If you lead with this philosophy, you’ll avoid wasting your time and will prime your mind to acknowledge the wins in your life.

Celebrating too much will have you playing catch up later on in life.

Here are some signs that you celebrate too much.

1. Clubbing Twice a Week

In your 20s, you’ll meet a lot of people who go clubbing on Friday and Saturday.

To me, that’s overkill.

Going to a club once a week is fine in your early 20s.

But even then, that’s overkill.

Clubbing collects all the bad habits out there and combines them into 1 cocktail.

Drinking, spending a ton of money, and hanging out with other drunk people.

Clubbing every now and then is fine.

But if you are someone who feels a strong desire to go to the club, just because of the day of the week, then there’s a chance you like to party too much.

2. A Micro Event Is Still an Event

I believe you need to be an ambivert to lead a meaningful life:

Be social when you need to.
Be by yourself when you need to.

When you fall too much into one segment, then you get into trouble.

When you’re too extroverted, you always need some kind of stimulus.

Which isn’t a good thing.

Even if you’re not partying, you’re hosting events like BBQs, watch parties, road trips etc.

These are fine in doses.

Having a BBQ out of the norm is a good way for people to remain social.

But when you keep throwing events because you can’t be alone, then that’s a problem.

It’s hard to spot who is throwing micro-events for the right reasons vs the wrong reasons.

Who is throwing a BBQ because they want to be social vs who is throwing a BBQ because they can’t be by themselves?

Only the host of the event will know that.

3. Suggesting Unneeded Events

A long time ago, I was throwing a tailgate.

I wanted the event week to be efficient.

Friday, we were going to have a mixer at a sushi bar.

Saturday, we were going to have the tailgate in the morning and an afterparty at night.

On Sunday, we were going to have a big brunch.

Efficient.

Then one of my fraternity brothers asked:

‘Then what?’

I asked what he meant.

He responded:

‘What parties are we going to throw next week for the tailgate?’

I asked him why we would throw more parties next week?!

The purpose of the event was to create a weekend for the tailgate.

Now he’s suggesting ideas to party just because.

People who party too much will sneak in ideas about partying more and derail you from the mission of the event.

4. Have Friends Who Party All The Time

I used to date a girl who was an introvert.

Before I began dating her, I noticed she would go clubbing a lot.

Once I began dating her, I asked:

‘It seemed like you partied a lot when you were single.’

She responded:

‘I hate clubs. But that’s how my friends have fun. So, I would tag along.’

Tag along enough, and it becomes a lifestyle.

A lot of guys have a compass on when to dial back on clubbing because their bank account takes a hit.

But for girls, it’s different.

Girls get free drinks, free cover, and at times, free food.

It’s way easier for a girl in her 20s to fall into the partying trap because there is an incentive to do so.

You need to be extra careful if you’re a girl!

5. Regular Moments Feel Dull

I once went to Dave and Busters with a few friends.

There was a girl named Nancy who joined us.

Nancy was the hardcore partier of the group.

Dave and Busters was a hybrid between a family-friendly atmosphere and a party atmosphere.

You could treat the venue however you want to treat it.

Me and my friends were vibing.

But Nancy was moping around.

She says:

‘I’m bored! When are we actually going to do something fun?’

I thought there was something wrong with this girl.

We were all eating good food, shooting hoops, playing games, winning prizes …

And she’s asking when we are going to do something fun?

Girl, we are already doing something fun!!

She was desensitized to fun experiences.

Unless she heard loud music, was liquored up, and was bumping into people on the dance floor, she wasn’t capable of having fun.

I’m Still a Big Fan of Partying

I think partying is a good thing.

I really do.

It’s a great way to boost your social skills.

People who rarely party carry themselves in a stiff way.

The stiff personality spills over to other parts of their life.

They are stiff in weddings, work events, mass gatherings, and more.

Some partying will keep your social muscle strong, and you’ll feel more confident.

But people who party too much struggle with self-esteem issues:

They are scared to be alone.
They have desensitized themselves to ordinary events.
And they always need some kind of stimulus.

Needing something is way different than wanting something.

It’s okay to want to party.

But it’s not okay to NEED to have to party.

You can waste a lot of time partying too much in your 20s.

Where people are taking it to the next level in their 30s, you are using your 30s to play catchup.

Avoid that, brother.

Just celebrate when you have something worth celebrating.

5 Signs You Party Too Much